Are People in Relationships Happier?
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Is your Love Life All You Want it to be?
It has been said that where there is love there is life. Does that mean a person without love in his/her life is without life?
If the statement “where there is love there is life” is true, does it only apply to intimate love with a partner or is it enough simply to have friends and family who love you?
It seems to me from the work I have done with both individuals and couples that people who are in close loving relationships with other people seem, in general, to be a bit more positive about life than those with few close friends. But the people who seem to have a real grip on their life do in fact appear to be the people who have a close intimate partner are indeed happy with their life
It looks like people who are in a committed relationship are happier than those who are not, and married people appear to be the happiest. The strange thing is that often a person is happier with life in general even if the relationship they are in is not as good as it could be. If this is the case it may be that as human beings we are more fulfilled knowing that we are part of something than being alone.
In the study, published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, researchers analysed information from 691 young adults who were surveyed in 1992 and 1997. About 30 per cent were married and 8 per cent were co-habituating with a partner at the time of the first survey.
It is quite an old survey but in 1999 Researchers assessed overall well-being using measures of self-esteem, life satisfaction, general happiness, and distress symptoms. The results showed that married people reported the highest well-being and happiness, while people who dated infrequently or not at all reported the lowest. Researchers say the study confirms that having a romantic relationship makes both men and women happier, and the stronger the relationship’s commitment, the greater the well-being and happiness of the partners.
It got me wondering what it is then about being in an intimate relationship seems to make people happier
It could be any or all of the following;
· Feeling a sense of belonging
· Satisfaction at creating a family unit
· Boost self-esteem knowing that someone loves you
· Boost self-esteem knowing that someone is attracted to you
· Having someone to share your thoughts, ideas aspirations and dreams with
· Having access to intimacy, hugs, tactile, sensuality, sex
· Knowing you are not alone
· Being able to give love as well as receive it
· Shared financial issues
· Sense of community
Now don’t get me wrong. There are obviously people who are not in a committed relationship who are happy, if not happier than many people who are in a relationship. But it does appear that being in a committed intimate relationship has the edge.
One thing is for sure. People who are happy seem to have a more positive outlook than those who are not. And if you have a positive outlook on life then chances are you will achieve many of the things you want to. Achievement brings higher self-esteem and higher self-esteem tends to make you a happier, more fulfilled person.
What is it that makes you happy or unhappy? Is it not being in a relationship or is it not being on the correct career path or is it something completely different. Understand what makes you unhappy then do all you can to get yourself in a position of happiness.