Fingertip Living

Fingertip Living Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic Some of us think in words. People who do this, verbalise their thoughts to others and to themselves. When they listen to someone those people who think in words concentrate on the words to gain understanding. Other people think in pictures. I fit into this category. When I want to explain something to someone I tend to paint a picture for them. Not with actual paints but by telling them a story. When I want to understand something that someone has told me, again I tend to use pictures in my mind to make the concept clearer. Fingertip Living to me conjures up the image (there I go thinking in pictures again) of someone hanging onto a cliff top by their fingertips. In this picture they have a strong hold on the cliff top even[…]

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Feeling Your Worth

Feeling Your Worth Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic I think self-worth is mostly about attitude and about what is happening in your life at that time. Self-worth is about how you feel about what /who you are. The thing is sometimes we have great self-worth and other times not so much. But the thing is that from one day to the next our life hasn’t really changed much and we are still the same person. It is our perception of our self and life that has changed. One thing I often say when I am facilitating workshops or giving talks is that if someone has achieved something in the world then there should be nothing stopping you from achieving it too. In other words if someone has run a marathon (which they have) then no matter how unfit you feel you are,[…]

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Enjoy Where You Are in Life Right Now

Enjoy Where You Are in Life Right Now Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic Sometimes we spend so much time looking to the future or dwelling on the past. But the only time we have any control over is the present. I come across many people who for whatever reason spend so much time in the past or future that they forget to enjoy what it is that is going on in their life right now. Of course the past can be remembered and the future can be and exciting prospect but remember the present is what really matters. Only by living in the present moment can you be aware of the lessons of your past and the potential of your future. Here are a few tips on how to be present and enjoy where you are in your life right now  Just[…]

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Changing Beliefs

Changing beliefs Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic In order to change an old belief  you need to develop a new one and then convince yourself that the new belief is true. You can do this by seeing the new belief in action either through other people, or in yourself. There are lots of ways to do this. You can read books and listen to tapes by people who have the belief that you want to have. This will re-enforce this new belief for you so that it is real for you. You can also read biographies of people who have a positive view on the new belief that you want to have. This will help you understand that anything is possible. Tell yourself over and over that you can have whatever you want. and take action in that new direction. The “taking action” part of that is vital.[…]

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Your Authentic Self

Your Authentic Self is the Person You are When No One Else is Watching Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic We all have different faces and behaviours for different situations. You may speak differently when you are around children than you do when you are watching a football match. When you are with friends and family you may be different than when you are with people you are less comfortable with. So which one is the real you? Are you that person who appears to be sweet and kind around children or are you the obnoxious foulmouthed individual who attends a football match with a few mates? In truth most people like to think that they are a mixture of both. If you are one such person you could be partially correct. But what if you are interested in discovering the real, the[…]

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Are People in Relationships Happier

Are People in Relationships Happier? Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic Is your Love Life All You Want it to be? It has been said that where there is love there is life. Does that mean a person without love in his/her life is without life? If the statement “where there is love there is life” is true, does it only apply to intimate love with a partner or is it enough simply to have friends and family who love you? It seems to me from the work I have done with both individuals and couples that people who are in close loving relationships with other people seem, in general, to be a bit more positive about life than those with few close friends. But the people who seem to have a real grip on their life do in fact appear to be[…]

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Act your age – you’re too old to have fun

Act your age – you’re too old to have fun Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic Most of us have been embraced by our parents actions at sometime (or example seeing them on the dance floor at a wedding). There is a dawning process when you realised that your parents are human beings and not just there to feed, clothe and give you things that you needed. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we are human and not just there for other people. We want to have fun but often forget how. Society tells us that at different stage in our lives we should conform and act our age. A five year old can act irresponsibly ‘she’s only a child’. At sixteen, ‘well he’s just a teenager he’ll grow out of it. A twenty five year old, ‘look to the future, start[…]

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Unattached and Over 50 Give up on Love

Unattached and Over 50 Give up on Love Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic Julie, by her own admission, has a life that many of her friends would love to have. She is financially independent, has two grown up successful children, has more friends than can be counted on two hands and could be out socialising every night of the week. Yet there is one part of Julie’s life that she admits to have given up on … Love. Like many women of a certain age and above, Julie finds herself single again after being in what she would describe as an ‘average successful relationship’ for many years. Like many relationships hers just dwindled into something that for her and her partner didn’t warrant staying together; so they didn’t. Since the break up Julie has really found her feet in the single social[…]

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