Have the life you want

Best Advice I have Been Given

The three best pieces of advice I have been given are; Be selfish A healthy mind is as important as a healthy body Treat others as you would like others to treat you. 1. Be selfish On the face of it this seems a strange piece of advice for me to choose as one of my top three pieces of advice. I hope it will become clear why I feel it is great advice. I give talks and facilitate workshops on all sorts of topics. The title for one of my lectures is “Be Selfish”. This topic draws a lot of interesting people. Some who attend are curious about what it is all about. Other attendees feel they give away too much of their personal power and so want to learn how to be more selfish. No matter why they come to my talks and workshops, they are all intrigued[…]

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Have I become Fattist

Have I become Fattist? I have never smoked. Nor have I been a drinker of alcohol to any real extent. There is absolutely no moral reason that I am not a smoker or drinker. They are simply not what I wanted to do. But for most of my l have been overweight. Fat, there I said it; I have been fat. Now however, I have lost about 4 stone with still a few to go. I feel so much better than I did before. I have more energy and generally feel fitter and as a bonus everyone who knew me when I was heavier are now telling me I look great. Who doesn’t like a bit of praise now and a gain? As I said, I have never smoked or drank alcohol to any great extent. I have never been against people who do. Well, apart from family members, and this is[…]

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100 Second Interviews

What it is about I would like to interview 100 inspirational/influential people in a 100 second video interview (yes that’s right, 100 seconds). If you are, or know anyone who may be interested in doing this please let me know. I am looking for men, women, young, old …. you get the idea, I am looking for anyone who is inspirational and/or influential in their business life or personal life. I will ask you as many quick-fire questions as I can during this ultra short interview (so be prepared to keep your answers short and concise) The interview would go on YouTube and on my sites www.frankshapiro.com and www.shapirointernational.com (We are also building a wellbeing teaching site where the interviews will also be going on) About me I am a speaker and coach and have been for many years I am based in the UK but our sites are worldwide and[…]

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Have the life you want

Have The Life You Want Instead Of Talking About Having The Life You Want

Having The Life You Want There are millions of people in the world who have the life they want and they don’t want to change a thing. There are however many others who would like to change one thing about their life, or maybe even lots of things so that they have the life they dream of. Some of those who have the life they want will just have fallen into having it all perfect. Others will have had to work hard to achieve their ideal life. There is however another group of people to consider. These are people who talk about having the life they want and don’t actually take any action to make it happen. Know What You Want When asked what the want their life to be like, I have heard many people say something like, I don’t know but I don’t want it as it is. This statement is a bit negative[…]

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Where the Grass is Greener

Where the Grass is Greener Contact me now if you want to find out more about the above As you may know, as well as facilitating workshops and seminars, I coach people on a one to one basis. Many of the people I have as clients are in the entertainment industry. I was talking to one of my clients a while ago and she came up with this kind of cool observation. I asked her if I could share it with you and she agreed. She said: ‘Its amazing how much a lot of people (especially the younger ones) who aren’t celebrities wish they were one, yet the people who are celebrities often find it too much and wish they weren’t’ It made me think that so often we are driven, not by what we want, but by what we don’t want. Most of us will have heard the saying[…]

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When People Let You Down Don’t Let it Get You Down

When People Let You Down Don’t Let it Get You Down I have often been asked the question – “How can I stop feeling hurt when someone close to me lets me down”? I suppose the short answer to that question is that as long as we live in communities and not on a desert island all alone, there will always be people who let us down. But we really need to look a little deeper to find out if in actual fact it is possible for anyone else to let us down or if we are responsible for how we feel about how other people are towards us. I am pretty strongly of the opinion that we cannot hold others responsible for how we feel about any given circumstance or situation in which we find ourselves. We are always responsible for our own feelings even if they are the[…]

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There is No Secret to Success

There is no Secret to Success Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic “What do you want to be when you leave school” I recently asked a teenage student. “I don’t really mind”, she said “as long as I am successful”. The great thing about her answer was that in reality it meant she could never be a failure. Success doesn’t really exist. Because it is such a subjective concept, being successful is whatever you want it to be. We are only successful if we determine that we are. One person may consider success to be a happy relationship. Another may deem that without a nice car parked outside a dethatched house, success has not yet been achieved. For some having a million pounds in the bank is an indication of success while for others not having an overdraught or maxed out credit card[…]

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Take a Step Back and Make Your Business Work

Take a Step Back and Make Your Business Work Contact me now if you want to find out more about the above Sometimes we are so busy running our business that we forget to, or don’t have time to actually run our business. Spending too much time on the day to day stuff gives you less and less time to take a step back and actually manage the big picture. When this happens your business can at best stand still and at worst lose money. Here are a few steps to begin to change that and move your business forward. Remember that you are NOT the only person who can do the job. Often we think it is easier to just do things yourself instead of taking the time to train someone to do the smaller, time consuming jobs in your business. The problem with this is that you will[…]

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Personal Boundaries

Personal Boundaries Setting strong personal boundaries is important in all aspects of life. Contact me now if you want to find out more about the above A boundary is something that sets a border or limit. That border or limit can be physical, emotional, intellectual, or spiritual. A boundary is not a ‘wall’ you put up to keep people out and is definitely not something you put in place to hide behind. Physical boundaries refer to your body: your ability to control when and how others approach you, see you, or touch you. Refusing a hug from someone you do not like is an example of setting a physical boundary, as is locking a door on your bedroom, shutting a curtain on your window, and building a fence between your home and your neighbour’s property. Emotional boundaries have to do with your feelings: your ability to recognise, accept, and express[…]

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Saying No

Saying No Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic Why do some people say yes when they mean no? You may be tempted to say yes to someone when you would like to say no because of fear of offending the other person. It may also be that you do not want to feel like the odd person out or a killjoy  So how do we go about saying no (in life situations) if we are not used to doing it? Be prepared to say no. If you know you are going into a situation where you think someone will ask something of you that you don’t want to do then be prepared. Think of no as being your first response and yes as being one you will give if the suggestion is more appealing that you first thought. Try saying, “I’m sorry. I[…]

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