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Where the Grass is Greener

Where the Grass is Greener Contact me now if you want to find out more about the above As you may know, as well as facilitating workshops and seminars, I coach people on a one to one basis. Many of the people I have as clients are in the entertainment industry. I was talking to one of my clients a while ago and she came up with this kind of cool observation. I asked her if I could share it with you and she agreed. She said: ‘Its amazing how much a lot of people (especially the younger ones) who aren’t celebrities wish they were one, yet the people who are celebrities often find it too much and wish they weren’t’ It made me think that so often we are driven, not by what we want, but by what we don’t want. Most of us will have heard the saying[…]

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When People Let You Down Don’t Let it Get You Down

When People Let You Down Don’t Let it Get You Down I have often been asked the question – “How can I stop feeling hurt when someone close to me lets me down”? I suppose the short answer to that question is that as long as we live in communities and not on a desert island all alone, there will always be people who let us down. But we really need to look a little deeper to find out if in actual fact it is possible for anyone else to let us down or if we are responsible for how we feel about how other people are towards us. I am pretty strongly of the opinion that we cannot hold others responsible for how we feel about any given circumstance or situation in which we find ourselves. We are always responsible for our own feelings even if they are the[…]

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There is No Secret to Success

There is no Secret to Success Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic “What do you want to be when you leave school” I recently asked a teenage student. “I don’t really mind”, she said “as long as I am successful”. The great thing about her answer was that in reality it meant she could never be a failure. Success doesn’t really exist. Because it is such a subjective concept, being successful is whatever you want it to be. We are only successful if we determine that we are. One person may consider success to be a happy relationship. Another may deem that without a nice car parked outside a dethatched house, success has not yet been achieved. For some having a million pounds in the bank is an indication of success while for others not having an overdraught or maxed out credit card[…]

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Saying No

Saying No Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic Why do some people say yes when they mean no? You may be tempted to say yes to someone when you would like to say no because of fear of offending the other person. It may also be that you do not want to feel like the odd person out or a killjoy  So how do we go about saying no (in life situations) if we are not used to doing it? Be prepared to say no. If you know you are going into a situation where you think someone will ask something of you that you don’t want to do then be prepared. Think of no as being your first response and yes as being one you will give if the suggestion is more appealing that you first thought. Try saying, “I’m sorry. I[…]

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Making Dreams a Reality

Making Dreams a Reality Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic We all have them …. dreams that is. Dreams are just ambitions that you have not yet begun to act upon so as to make a reality. It seems that the younger we are the more ambitious the dreams we have for ourselves. Ask any child and they will have huge ambitions with seemingly no limits. But as we get older we tend to sometimes let our dreams remain dreams and accept reality as whatever it is that we have right now. We don’t appreciate the fact that reality is not static it is fluid and we can achieve anything we put our mind to no matter what age we are or life situation we find ourselves in. Want it Bad enough How much do you want it? One thing is for sure,[…]

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Fingertip Living

Fingertip Living Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic Some of us think in words. People who do this, verbalise their thoughts to others and to themselves. When they listen to someone those people who think in words concentrate on the words to gain understanding. Other people think in pictures. I fit into this category. When I want to explain something to someone I tend to paint a picture for them. Not with actual paints but by telling them a story. When I want to understand something that someone has told me, again I tend to use pictures in my mind to make the concept clearer. Fingertip Living to me conjures up the image (there I go thinking in pictures again) of someone hanging onto a cliff top by their fingertips. In this picture they have a strong hold on the cliff top even[…]

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Feeling Your Worth

Feeling Your Worth Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic I think self-worth is mostly about attitude and about what is happening in your life at that time. Self-worth is about how you feel about what /who you are. The thing is sometimes we have great self-worth and other times not so much. But the thing is that from one day to the next our life hasn’t really changed much and we are still the same person. It is our perception of our self and life that has changed. One thing I often say when I am facilitating workshops or giving talks is that if someone has achieved something in the world then there should be nothing stopping you from achieving it too. In other words if someone has run a marathon (which they have) then no matter how unfit you feel you are,[…]

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Changing Beliefs

Changing beliefs Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic In order to change an old belief  you need to develop a new one and then convince yourself that the new belief is true. You can do this by seeing the new belief in action either through other people, or in yourself. There are lots of ways to do this. You can read books and listen to tapes by people who have the belief that you want to have. This will re-enforce this new belief for you so that it is real for you. You can also read biographies of people who have a positive view on the new belief that you want to have. This will help you understand that anything is possible. Tell yourself over and over that you can have whatever you want. and take action in that new direction. The “taking action” part of that is vital.[…]

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Your Authentic Self

Your Authentic Self is the Person You are When No One Else is Watching Contact me now if you want to find out more about this topic We all have different faces and behaviours for different situations. You may speak differently when you are around children than you do when you are watching a football match. When you are with friends and family you may be different than when you are with people you are less comfortable with. So which one is the real you? Are you that person who appears to be sweet and kind around children or are you the obnoxious foulmouthed individual who attends a football match with a few mates? In truth most people like to think that they are a mixture of both. If you are one such person you could be partially correct. But what if you are interested in discovering the real, the[…]

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